6 Important Life Lessons That A Father Wants To Tell His Sons [A Letter]

September 02, 2020

Sharing you these 6 important life lessons that I want to tell my children and that other fathers might find of value as well.

My dearest Miguel & Rafa,

If you are reading this letter, I am deeply happy for two reasons: one is the COVID-19 pandemic might have already passed so the world is most likely (hopefully) in a much better situation as compared today as I write this letter and two is that you are still genuinely interested to learn from Daddy.

6 Important Life Lessons that a Father wants to tell his sons

6 Important Life Lessons That A Father Wants To Tell His Sons [A Letter]

    Fatherhood is one journey that I am extremely happy to be given the chance to take. I am immensely proud to be called a father when the two of you were born but I am even prouder to have been able to raise good God-fearing and respectful sons. Like any other well-meaning father, these things are the ultimate culmination of my dreams.

    I am still in awe of how your mother and I were able to do it but I guess it was because of how we consistently reminded you of the important life lessons that we ourselves adhere to. If it worked for us, I guess the best way to honor these life lessons is to share it with other people, especially the youth, who might find these ideals (or even just bits and pieces of it) of great value, too. 

    On the other hand, I do not also want to forget these learnings. We might have talked about these things on numerous occasions, but knowing me, I forget some details easily. So I am writing these down here. After all, it’s always good to look back at the past because memories, whatever they may be, will make us happy. Whether those are memories about instances that made us smile or challenges that we were able to overcome, they are bound to provide a dose of happiness to us. 

    So, let's walk back to memory lane and remember those cheerful (and even not-so-cheery) days when we would talk over dinner or at the porch about how to live life. Allow me to put into words our small talks and hope that these also bring a spark of hope and joy to other people: 

    1. Find your happy 

    Life should be lived well and to its fullest. As such, we should strive to find happiness in everything that we do and in how we live life, in general. I used to say that we should try to be non-conformists or be different at all times. 

    But what if conformity and blending in with the crowd make you happy? Well, you do not always have to be different to stand out. In fact, you do not always have to stand out if you do not want to. Just be happy with what you have, what you do, and whatever path you choose to take. As long as you are not hurting anybody or doing anything unlawful, then you are living a happy life.

    Live a minimalistic life. The less you have, the lesser your worries will be. 

    2. Work hard because the world does not owe us anything 

    One of the greatest lessons that I learned early on is the value of hard work. There is nothing easy in this world, we will not be served anything on a silver platter. There may be shortcuts but they do not guarantee optimal results. 

    However, hard work is more rewarding most of the time. Furthermore, work hard because, in the end, you only have yourself to rely on. You may find a partner in the future but still work very hard with them. 

    You may choose any career that makes you happy in the future, but love it and it will love you back. Work hard and always give it your best shot. Remember that your work may not always reward you but whatever happens, you can at least sleep with a clear mind that you gave it your all and the outcome is beyond your control. 

    3. Always exercise fairness 

    Be fair in whatever you do. Do not short-change other people, give them what is due to to to them. Be fair especially to those who have less. In fact, try to give them extra if you have some more to spare. 

    Be fair to those who are not as strong as you are, including animals. Your character is best tested when you are given power or authority. In any case, always choose to be fair and generous. 

    4. Be grateful for your blessings at all times 

    Always be grateful for every little thing that you have. Learn to appreciate your clothes, your education, your home, the people you have in your life, your food, everything. 

    When you have food on your table, show your appreciation by respecting it, treating it as a form of nourishment,, and not just something to fill your tummy. Do not be materialistic but for the material things that you have, show your appreciation by taking care of them. For the people that you have, show that you care and do not take them for granted. 

    What’s more, always share your blessings. The littlest of help can go a long way or make a difference in the lives of other people. 

    Be grateful and you will always be blessed. 

    5. Religion and politics are topics that cause a divide 

    You know that I personally love spirituality but I am extremely apprehensive when it comes to the topics of religion and politics. That is because different people have different opinions when it comes to religion and politics. 

    Each person has a concept of what is right or wrong when it comes to church and state. As such, avoid these topics as much as you can if you want to keep your relationships intact with your friends. Then again, if you choose to set foot on these subjects, learn to listen and be flexible. 

    6. Be good to your parents 

    Your mother and I have always been good to our parents and I want you to be the same. Not for anything but we really value our relationship with you, our sons. It would hurt us if you would forget about us. 

    But just to set things straight, I want to know that you have no obligation to take care of us, just like how my parents raised me. However, we would appreciate it if you could visit your mother and me when we do get old. Remember that you are our life and our happiness, and that fact will remain up to our very last breath. 

    That’s it for now. I hope this letter made you smile, my sons. I did not want it to be dramatic or anything too formal. If ever I remember anything, I would keep on updating this letter so I hope you would come back to visit it. 

    The important life lessons that a father can impart to his sons and to the youth as well
    Finding my happy

    Again, I hope you are always happy and well. 

    Love always, 


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    1. I love this so much. I tried to teach all of these things to my son when he was growing up. Now that he's in the Army, it seems that those lessons served him well.

    2. Reading this letter to your children really hit me right in the feels. I love watching my husband be a parent to our children, and he approaches it in the same way that you do.

    3. I have no sons- only two girls. But these life lessons and advice could easily apply to them too!

    4. This is such a beautiful letter. One day, when they are grown, they will read this and know what an incredible father they had.

    5. Great lessons. Working hard and being grateful are SO important. Wise words for any child.

    6. Sweet! I don't have son/s but I have 2 girls.. This letter of yours inspires me to write them letters too!- digitally!

      Anyways, i bet your boys will grow up to be fine young men..

    7. These are all such lovely points to live by. Thanks for sharing your letter and so much good advice.

    8. This is such a sweet letter! I only have a daughter, but I think most of the advice is universal.

    9. Isn't this so sweet and lovely? I admire you for writing this. So nice!

    10. What an impactful letter to write to your child. Life lessons are important to share with our children.

    11. I am sure your two sons will be so proud of you and they will also be reminded what happened during this times.

    12. As I read this blog, I admire you sir for being a good father and husband. Your family is so lucky to have you. We all want to raise our children with a solid moral foundation, teach them important skills and values, and support them in becoming responsible adults. Hoping all parents will be like you. ❤️

    13. I salaute you sir! Ang dami kong natutunan sir💚 punong puno ng pagmamahal☺️ keep safe always sir♥️

    14. Defenitly Encouraging, and Super Helpful po talaga sa Mga Daddies at magiging Daddy Palang Like Me, Truly Indeed hanggat Bata pa Sila, Alam na Nila Yung Mga Bagay na Dapat Matutunan at dinadala nila sa araw araw .. All this 6 tips and Reminders was really Helpful, Amazing And Surely Worth to Share...

    15. These 6 important life lessons that a father wants to tell his sons has a really good and touching point. I'm really sure that every child would love to hear these from their father or from their parents. I'm really sure that your sons wilk be proud of you for writing this letter.

    16. Thankyou for sharing this daddy ivan. Very helpful po itong shinare nyo specially sa mga daddy and magiging Daddy palang.. Pwedeng pwede rin talaga nilang gawin ito habang bata pa ang mga kids .. Lahat po nito napakalaking tulong po talaga .

    17. I feel you ,a heartwarming story of yours , full of admiration ,being a parent ika nga ,eh Hindi biro ,it Took a lot of good things about it ❤️
      We all want the best for our kids / family ❤️
      Truly an inspiration and motivation to uplift everyone

    18. Love this daddy ivan talagang very touching po itong letter nyo for the kids. Sure na kapag nabasa din nila ito ay matutuwa sila. You are a good father to your kids and also you are a good husband to your wife. Kaya talagang nakaka inspire po kayo. I agree na dapat bata pa lang ay alam na nila yung mga bagay or kung ano yung tama at mali para mas lumaki sila ng maayos. ❤️🤗

    19. This is a heartfelt letter po dadi ivan. I'm sure when the time comes that your kids will be reading this, they will appreciate these lessons and be proud of you po. Very heartwarming.

    20. AiringMyLaundry8 May 2022 at 03:07

      Such a sweet letter. I am sure your sons will love this. These are some lovely lessons.

    21. These are good lessons for parents to teach their kids. Raising boys is a tough job as I have 4 sons

    22. enriqueta lemoine8 May 2022 at 03:07

      This is so thoughtful! I love this idea, wish I came up with it

    23. What a lovely family! I think we should all do whatever makes us happy in life.

    24. This is a really nice letter. When you children will grow up and will learn how to read, will appreciate it a lot.

    25. Alvern Success Unscrambled8 May 2022 at 03:08

      This reminds me of those people who write letters to the younger version of themselves. It is such a great idea. Years ago I decided that the best gift I can give my kids is the podcast recordings of my voice on marketing. That way a recording of my voice will always be available to them.

    26. Camilo M Villanueva Jr8 May 2022 at 03:08

      I love this article so much because the lessons are as practical as they are real.

      Your children would surely be proud of to have you and to learn from you these lessons.

      Thank you for this article, Sir.


    27. Ramil Hinolan8 May 2022 at 03:08

      Nice read. I salute you for raising these two wonderful sons. Surely, as parents, we just want all the best for our kids.

    28. Jowana Gumboc8 May 2022 at 03:08

      Awww. So sweet messege for your two sons. Thanks for sharing this. I will share it too to my hubby We have to girls. And you're so loving father and husband. Godbless you

    29. Thank you very much for the kind words!

    30. Hyun Jang Nim8 May 2022 at 03:09

      wow this is so sweet. your sons gonna love this for sure.

      - Hyun Jang Nim

    31. Thank you so much, sir. Yes, all for our children.

    32. Thank you for the kind words, sir. I just want my children to grow up happy and well-raised.

    33. This is such a sweet letter to your kids! They will surely appreciate this.